I have a rule not to
post anything political or controversial here, but in this case I will not
only make an exception, I’ll get downright preachy about it. Today and tomorrow the Superior
Court will discuss California’s ban on same-sex marriage
and the federal Defense of Marriage Act, which
denies federal benefits to same-sex couples married in the nine states where
such unions are legal. I pray that our country’s judicial representatives will,
quite simply, do the right thing in their subsequent rulings on these cases.
When my brother Tim, who passed
away over nine years ago, told me he was gay, I remember thinking: “Thank God.” He
was so private, never had a girlfriend, and I feared he would never experience
true love in his life. Turned out his hopes in this area were pretty much the
same as mine: To have one committed partner to spend the rest of his life with and
also, someday, to have children. During his final days, he shared with me his lifelong desire to be a father. He wondered what kind of dad he would've been. I have the
answer to that one: A kind, decent, and loving one who would have read a lot of parenting books and taken his kids on many camping trips! If anyone out
there thinks I’m a halfway decent mom, I can tell you he would have run circles
around me in the parenting department!
I am a Christian. And for a time
I was a member of a fundamentalist church that believed being gay was wrong
according to the teachings of the bible. My brother was also a believer and sought
his answers in that very bible (flawed as it is) — yet my church would not
have accepted him as a member or allowed him to serve the congregation in any
capacity. I have a problem with that.
The same narrow-minded thinking has reigned supreme in large segments of our society as well as our judicial system for centuries. I attended
my sister’s wedding last year. The current powers that be tell me that she and I are entitled to the benefits of the institution of marriage but my brother is not — simply because of the gender of whom he loves. It’s analogous to putting black people at the back of the bus! We do not "choose" being gay or straight any more than we choose the color of our own skin. It is high time we, as a society, right this wrong and I am praying that the
Superior Court will take the first step in doing just that this week.
